10 Lessons I Learned In My Twenties

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10-lessonsI’m still getting used to telling people that I’m 30 years old. Time moves way too fast. I can remember my 25th birthday like it was yesterday. I enjoyed most of my twenties. I learned and matured a lot during those years.  Below are 10 lessons that I learned during that time.

Enjoy Life

You have to enjoy life.  You shouldn’t go around complaining all day. If you don’t like something change it. You only have one life to live.


I am a big fan of traveling. Some of my best life experiences have come from being on the road. For some people the twenties are the easiest time for them to travel. They don’t have too many commitments, so they make it happen. I don’t blame them. Who really wants to wait until retirement to start traveling anyway? You would be surprised that traveling is not as expensive as you think.

It’s fine if you’re not a millionaire by 28 years old.

When I was a kid I wanted to be a millionaire before I turned 28. It didn’t happen, though. I’m not there yet, but it can still happen. I know a lot of other people who also wanted to be millionaires in their twenties.  For most of us, we weren’t focused and mentally ready to set out and earn a million dollars.

You will lose friends.

It’s a part of life. You will lose friends. Some people grow up and mature. Some don’t. It’s normal to lose a couple friends through this thing called life.

There is a strong possibility that you will accumulate some debt.

Most people accumulate debt in their twenties. Two common sources of debt are student loan and credit card debt. If you are in your teens or early twenties start paying attention to loan amounts and interest now. If you are in college here are some scholarships you can check out.

Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Unexpected things happen all the time. Examples of things that I would consider small are parking tickets, co-workers who talk too much and restaurants that mess up your order. Don’t let them get to you. Remain calm and everything will be alright.

Everyone is not your friend.

Everybody is not your friend. Some people are just there for a season or two.

Do It Now

If you have a chance to do something, do it now. It could be starting an exercise routine or starting a business. Do it now. If you don’t you may put it off forever.

Stay Aware

Don’t become a walking zombie. If you are doing the same thing over and over again and you’re frustrated, make some changes. Don’t be content in something if it’s not helping you.

Everyone will not always support you or your decisions.

I can go on for hours about this lesson. Some people don’t want to see you successful. Some are afraid to do things so they won’t support anyone who is doing anything out of the norm. Others are just flat out haters. Don’t let them get to you. Choose decisions because they make you happy, not anybody else.

Did you guys learn any specific lessons in your twenties? Feel free to share below!



  1. Great list, but I particularly liked the one about not becoming a walking zombie. I have done this many times. Sometimes this health thing just beats my down, but then I read something like this and the old spark is reignited to keep trying until you find the solution.

  2. You wanted to become a millionaire? I just wanted to get rid of debt (my only debt was student loans) and support myself. I achieved that goal.

    I suppose people change a lot in their twenties, and thus one may pick friends differently than in the years before. I find it harder to make friends when busy with family (I have three children). I made many new friends in my twenties.

  3. Am in my twenties and time sure moves fast! I remind myself each day to be happy and enjoy life…who knows what tomorrow brings. I could do some more travelling, certainly exploring all my options of doing that on a very tight budget.

    1. You have to make sure you enjoy each day. Carpe Diem!

  4. Lorraine Reguly says:

    I was in total denial my whole year when I was 29. 30 just wasn’t going to happen to me! When I got a birthday card from my mom, she made me feel better. It had ribbon (an award ribbon) attached to it, along with a poem. Even though I can’t recall the exact words, it went something like this:

    Oh, wow! It’s your birthday! You’re 30! That’s great! Ya – hoo!
    (something something something….) Just remember, those who’re turning 40 would kill to be you!

    This lifted my spirits immensely!

    Sigh, now I’m 42.

    1. I would have loved to receive a card like that for my birthday lol.

  5. My twenties was a long time ago, however I’ll say that I learned from my 30s you do lose friends but it makes people (particularly over 30) more open if you say “Hey you want to go for some coffee?” So don’t be afraid to ask and don’t get hurt if they say they don’t have the time. Just move on. I find that most people would LOVE to go for coffee/tea to hangout but are afraid to ask.

  6. I couldn’t wait to turn 30. Professionally, it’s an age where you are no longer regarded as the kid, the one still learning. You’ve seasoned, toughened up, accumulated knowledge and wisdom…but the life stuff was a little harder:) Like losing some friends. But hey…life is good and personally, my forties were my very best years personally and professionally.

  7. I think this is a great topic and the pointers you offer are certainly sound ones. That said, I am well over my second decade of life and I believe the points you make are just as applicable now as they were in younger years. In my 20’s travel was also one of my most freeing experiences. People are overly focused on making money. It’s fine though, to make money doing what you love, to make a life, rather than just a living.

  8. I think it’s valuable to recognize that losing friends is part of life. In our youth, it’s easy to promise to be “friends forever” but in reality, only a few friendships survive that long.

  9. Our twenties is such an important time and we learn so much. I love your list and it gives many of us a new look on how we are living. 🙂

  10. Wow! I just turned 40, and am still working on understanding some of these. Guess they don’t call them “life lessons” for nothin’. Thanks for sharing this thought-provoking list.

  11. I’m creeping up on my 30s fairly quick, and I can definitely relate to a lot of these lessons you’ve learned. 🙂 I feel like i’m in the process of learning a few of them myself. Thanks for sharing them. I’m a new follower on Twitter, and look forward to reading more posts.

    1. Thanks for reading. I hope you enjoy!

  12. Hi Jason! I love your blog, post and truth in writing. It is a reality check to age up each year but it is most especially a blessing. Your life lessons are great to share and I would add, if you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. Find a cause, get involved and take a stand. Thank you for joining the Rewind and Review Blog Hop!

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